Many people have somewhat of a misconception of the purpose of a twin flame relationship. Most people operate under the misconception that a twin flame relationship is a deeply connected intimate relationship where the two of you share each other’s thoughts, complete each other’s sentences, have the best sex of your lives and both of your grand mothers are named Mary. Well these are all very nice thoughts and certainly nice to have in your life, the purpose of a twin flame relationship goes much deeper than that. And if it didn’t it would not really be a twin flame relationship.
There seems to be some confusion between soulmate relationships and twin flame relationships. Soulmate relationships are more for the individuals, for their personal growth, spiritual growth and positive evolution of their souls through the experiences they have with that soulmate. When it comes to the purpose of a twin flame relationship, however, it is much more profound because you are contributing to mankind as a whole, the the experiences you gain in that twin flame relationship. This of course does not indicate that there will not be plenty of personal growth in a twin flame relationship, because there will, as you will both be mirrors to reflect the good, as well as the not so good, that needs to be addressed in each other. The purpose of a twin flame relationship is moreso to bring some sort of gift to the world through your partnership with your twin flame.
The main purpose of a twin flame relationship is to bring something of value into the world. Not to the relationship, not to you, not to your twin flame but to the world as a whole. Now this could be something where the two of you work together to help others for example, working as missionaries in a third world country. But it does not have to necessarily be something like that. It could also be a creative project you both work on together that will be well received by people and help elevate their consciousness or bring about positive change in their lives. On the other hand, perhaps you marry and have a child who ends up being the greatest composer since Mozart, who can deliver great music to the world. Regardless of what it is, there will be a soul gift that is given to the world which is the purpose of a twin flame relationship. We must also consider that perhaps the twin is not yet ready to bring their soul gift to the world which will create issues and problems between you, which is a topic we will cover in a later posting.
As the course of your relationship develops you will learn or figure out what this soul gift is. On the other hand, you may meet as a result of already being in your soul path of delivering your soul gift to the world. We must be very clear here so we will reiterate, a twin flame relationship has to have a purpose and that purpose is not so you can have a fulfilling intimate connection to another human. If there is not a soul purpose for the two of you to be in a relationship together, it will still be a great relationship, but perhaps a soulmate relationship or just a regular mundane relationship.
If you need help figuring out if you are in a twin flame relationship or a soulmate relationship book a twin flame psychic reading with Sarah or Sophia. If you are currently in a twin flame relationship but not totally sure what the purpose of a twin flame relationship is, they will be able to provide guidance and insight to getting you on the right path.
While doing twin flame relationship psychic readings many clients inform us of their belief that love is all they need, and with the connection they share with the one they love, their relationship will prevail. For some reason, people seem to believe that love is all you need. They believe love that is meant to be will be, and that love conquers all. Those statements, although very romantic, are not realistic. Life happens, and even the best of couples can get torn apart. Love is not always enough and does not always survive unscathed. A twin flame psychic reading can often be a real eye opener for many clients. They were under the assumption that nothing could destroy their relationship, and that is simply not true. How we behave and the things we say and do have a direct affect on our love and relationships. If the connection between you and your soulmate or twin flame is so strong, why are you apart? Why are you and your twin flame or soulmate not communicating properly? Why are you and your soulmate or twin flame growing further apart?
People believe that soul mates and twin flames always work things out and there are no obstacles they cannot overcome, simply because they are deeply connected. When it comes to love, it does not always keep us together, get us back together, or keep us from breaking up. People can start a relationship, develop feelings for one another, but for one reason or another, the relationship ends. A twin flame psychic reading can help your relationship weather the storms and survive the bumps in the road along the way. Life is not always easy, and can be very hard, just like matters of the heart. All relationships will have their ups and downs, but if your relationships has extreme highs and extreme lows, you may need some help to level that pace. The extreme highs do not, and should not make up for the extreme lows. Your relationship should not go to extreme lows in the first place, and a twin flame psychic reading can help you get to the root of the problems so you can avoid those lows as best as possible. Some things are out of our control, but what IS in your control you CAN control.
Our desire and need for others is what sustains us through and supports us through our daily lives. We should not leave it to fate, chance, or destiny to decide if our love will grow, or survive. Don’t keep yourself from doing what you can to successfully maintain a loving relationship with your soulmate or twinflame. Take charge of the most important relationship in your life and do whatever you can to allow it to flourish, rather than wither. What can you do to keep things moving in the right direction? A twinflame psychic reading can help you protect the most important relationships in your life, and the keep the people you feel for most in your life.
Love may not be enough, but with some work, effort, and the guidance of twin flame psychic readings, you can now have all you need to keep your love alive. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise have helped many couples keep their relationship on track, and kept the feelings between them growing and evolving.
Many people seek guidance with a twin flame psychic reading. Twin Flame relationships are very special because the connection of these relationships goes beyond what is felt in a normal mundane relationship, or even a soulmate relationship. During your twin flame psychic reading you will gain clarity and understanding into your twin flame relationship. A twin flame psychic can offer insight into your twin flame connection, and valuable advice about twin flames, twin flame relationships and how they work. There are a lot of misconceptions about twin flame relationships. People often confuse them with soulmate relationships where there are a lot of challenges that must be overcome. Sure soulmate relationships do bring a lot of obstacles into our lives, but a true twin flame relationship is one where both parties are aware of the connection from the start.
Twin Flame relationships are the most deeply felt relationship connections of all. Some clients have described it as the most meaningful relationship of their life. We understand what they mean when it comes to their twin flame, and what a relationship like that is like. A twin flame is also sometimes called a twin soul or twin soul life partner.
A twin flame psychic reading you will learn if the person you believe is your twin flame really is your twin flame. Some people believe in twin flames, and some do not. You do not have to believe in twin flames for you to meet your twin flame in this lifetime. Many clients have worried “What if my twin flame does not believe in twin flames? Will that keep us from meeting and having a relationship?”. The answer is no. You need not worry about the faith or belief your twin flame has or does not have.
You may not like what is revealed in your twin flame psychic reading. No one wants to hear that the person that they thought was their twin flame really is not. Twin flame psychic readings can help empower you rather than weaken you during this tough wait. Don’t worry that you may never meet your twin flame in this lifetime. Some of us will, but some of us will not. It really depends how far along we are on our own spiritual journey and our depth of spiritual evolution.
A twin flame psychic reading will provide the help, guidance and insight you need. Twin Flame psychics, Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise, are here to help you with a personalized, professional, accurate twin flame psychic reading. A twin flame psychic reading can help you understand the connection between you and your twin flame and reveal the unique gifts the two of you will share as a couple.
The universe is dualistic. Dualism implies there are two parts: good and evil, yin and yang, spirit and matter, black and white, love and fear. To live in the light you must understand the darkness, when you are in darkness you have experienced the light. Love and fear are the only emotions we really experience, with all others being a subset of love or fear. The components of love are joy, peace, tranquility and compassion. But pessimism, depression and anxiety belong to fear. You can not have both. If you feel peace, you can not feel anxious. If you feel depressed you can not feel joy.
Fear and love do not coexist, they are mutually exclusive. When you are fearful you are not truly experiencing love and if you are experiencing love, your fears are gone. Love is light, and when we live from that place of love, we are living in the light.
And the same holds true with your relationships. In your romantic relationships, or any other relationships for that matter, are you dwelling in a place of fear? Or love? Do you find yourself doing things or worrying about things that you normally would not do? Do you over analyze everything he says and does? Do you have a good time together but wonder if he REALLY is having as good a time as you are? Do you constantly look for reassurance of his feelings? Are you threatened by every female he comes into contact with? You are not reacting upon your feelings of love for him, you are reacting to your fear of losing him. For whatever the reason, good or bad, you fear that when put to the test to prove that he really loves you, he will fail miserably. So what do you do? You try and remove all the tests, or you may even test him yourself. Does any of that really do any good? Does it help you alleviate your fears? Not really. What it does do is keep you in a place of fear, and your relationship is no longer based upon love, but fear of losing the one you love/fear.
Let’s say you met a guy named Steve and things have been going well between the two of you. You may find yourself looking for clues that he may not be what he seems, and think he may be less than honest even though he has given you no reason to think that. You may be holding back your own feelings because you are afraid he is not developing any, and decide to appear more aloof. You don’t ever initiate anything because you don’t want to make a fool out of yourself if he doesn’t like you as much as you like him. Then, one day, Steve tells you this is not working for him, and he thinks you should part ways. He tells you that you seem to lack chemistry and a connection and he doesn’t think the relationship will go anywhere. A part of you is thinking “I KNEW IT”, but when he goes on to explain that he thought you didn’t like him because you did nothing to show it you realize your FEAR just screwed up the whole thing, not STEVE. You were so afraid to put yourself out there, take a chance, and show him you liked him. What you wound up doing was making Steve think you were not really into him and never would be, and you made your fears a reality because now Steve is convinced you two are not right for each other. Your fear just lost you a potential relationship.
Some fears are healthy in relationships and other areas of our lives. If you really love someone, you should have a rational fear that you could lose them if you do obviously stupid things like cheat on them, steal their money, or run their mother over with a tractor. We should all have a healthy fear of losing the things that we value and make us happy. But what about the fear of losing things that are essentially worthless? Sounds stupid doesn’t it? Who would have a fear of losing something worthless? You are not worried late at night and losing sleep because someone may steal your garbage are you? No. But when it comes to relationships, people are afraid of losing either something they don’t really have, or something they shouldn’t want in the first place.
Time and time again we have heard someone say “He is so mean to me, he says terrible things and calls me horrible names, does nothing for me only takes from me, cheats on me, disrespects me, has no time for me, blah blah blah”. When their reading reveals what they need to do to change it or that they need to let go, we often hear “But I am afraid of losing him”. Excuse me, why would you be afraid of losing such a hideous relationship? Why would you even want it in the first place? Shouldn’t you be afraid of remaining in that relationship more than you should be afraid of losing it? What are you really afraid of? Being alone? Starting over? Admitting you wasted time and made mistakes being with this person? Either way, you have to deal with that fear because it is getting you into and remaining in relationships that are making you miserable.
Fear can make us do smart things, but in relationships, more often than not, fear makes us do really really REALLY stupid things. In real life, if you are on a boat and see a dorsal fin of a shark, your fear should keep you from diving in and getting eaten. This is where fear is helpful. But when your fear of losing someone causes you to wake them up at 4am, the night before their big meeting, because you need to talk about your feelings RIGHT NOW or you decide it is time to pick a fight, your fears just made you an imbecile. Fear makes people do stupid things like check the dark basement armed with nothing but a flashlight when they hear a loud noise resembling a monster or intruder.
It is the same in relationships, because fear makes people do things that often make their fear a reality, or a bigger nightmare than they could imagine. We have spoken to many clients who have put themselves into a state of financial ruin because of fear. For example, let’s say the one you love counts on you financially. The relationship itself sucks, and they treat you like crap, but when they need money for rent or their cel phone, they come to you. They make you feel that if you do not help them financially, the relationship will be over. Your fear of losing the relationship has you forking over your hard earned cash in an effort to keep it. Now, if you are going to buy something, don’t you look at the price and see if it is really worth spending your money on? If you are paying for a man to stay with you, shouldn’t you be getting your moneys worth? If he treats you like crap and you are paying his bills you are getting ripped off my friend. He should be treating you like gold, not like garbage. You can’t buy someones love, and if you try, you should see right away that it doesn’t work.
When we feel insecure, lacking confidence and have abandonment issues, we do not make the best romantic partner. When you project joy and tranquility you give off a vibe that is much more attractive than someone who is pessimistic and depressed. When you project joy (and l therefore love) you walk with your head up, you smile, you are kind if someone accidentally runs into you in the grocery store, for example. When you are in a negative space (or in the place of fear) you walk with your head down and ram every man woman and child who gets in your way in the produce department. Would you want to date someone who is depressed, insecure or without confidence? Wouldn’t you rather date someone who is happy, confident and self assured? (and we do mean confident, not to be confused with egotistical)
If you ask a man what qualities in a woman he finds repugnant and repulsive as opposed to attractive, you may hear things like “needy, clingy, psycho, immature,and drama queen”. All of those qualities come from a place of fear. Only a woman who is afraid is needy, clingy, psycho, immature or a drama queen. Jealousy can be normal and not affect a relationship in a negative way, it is only when major fear is added does the jealousy get out of hand and ultimately ruin the relationship. Your jealousy comes from a fear of losing him to another, but acting over-the-top due to that fear can run him right into the arms of another woman.
We talk to so many people who are in good relationships but their own insecurities, low self esteem, abandonment issues and other fears and phobias, can actually prevent the relationship from growing. If you are stuck in this place of fear, how can the love you have in your relationship grow? It can’t, and it won’t. Our challenge through all of this is to work on ourselves working through our fears, phobias and insecurities, so that love can grow. By releasing your fear, you release your death grip on the energy of the relationship. Of course we understand you love him and want to be with him, but if the fear of losing him is stronger than the love you have for him, you are living from a fear based perspective. All you will manifest from this position is more fear. And that fear will more than likely bring the relationship to an end. If you feel you can’t live without someone you are operating from place of fear. If you feel you need to control someone or the relationship you are coming from a place of fear. We realize you love him, but your fear is the very thing that is pushing him away and creating the disharmony in the relationship. Address your fear. Face it head on. Now this is not an easy place to get to, but when you can do that, love comes in and takes over because you love yourself more than you fear losing the dude. You may love him, but what about loving yourself?
If fear is ruining your relationship take all the focus off the guy, and focus it on yourself instead. Love Yourself. If you love yourself, there is no room for fear in the relationship. It is time to defeat fear and kick it in the butt, once and for all.
People can also manifest fears when it comes to their work and job situations. You may have always felt the desire to work for yourself, or to pursue a career dream or goal. Your fears of failure may keep you from even making an attempt. The excuses you use to stay at a job you hate simply for a paycheck are really enabling you from facing your fear, and taking a chance instead of being too afraid to try. Many people finally found the courage to face their fears, and did so because of a traumatic event. Because they had lost everything or hit rock bottom, they even lost their fear. Without fear standing in their way they went on to achieve success in a way that they had never even dreamed possible. And in this case they followed the sage advice of Bill Cosby… Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.
We had a client who was in a job she hated for some years but it was a great paycheck but she was on the road all the time and exhausted from long hours of peddling software. She was a single mother, with two kids in high school – one about to enter college, and she received no spousal support after her divorce at all. She really wanted to start her own consulting business, doing projects for many companies in her city that were using this software. She had a mortgage, a car note and the feeding and clothing of two teenage boys that was keeping her in a job that was robbing her soul. Fear of failure prevented her for stepping out on her own and creating her business. One winter she took a skiing vacation and ended up having a nasty accident that required surgery and reconstruction of her ankle. With her ability to travel being hindered she was not able to meet the requirements of the quota, so the company put her on probation. So now she was at the crossroads, not in that rock bottom place, but definitely in the place where she had to make a major choice. With the probation she had 60 days to turn everything around and make up for the business she lost due to her illness OR she could throw caution to the wind and start her consulting business. When a company puts you on probation you are essentially black balled and even if she had turned it around at the company, there was no guarantee they would not do that again. So essentially she had fear on both sides. After consulting with us she decided that it would put her in a greater place of power to start her consulting company by telling these people to take that job and shove it rather than try to fulfill the 60-day obligation, drive herself into the ground and still run the risk of being terminated. In this case, fear worked in her favor, but she also made the choice to step out of the fear-based mentality and embrace a new beginning with her own business. Today she still consults with us, is happy and successful and loves what she is doing.
So how exactly does one defeat fear? Of course it wont magically happen overnight by the waving of a magic wand. Like anything else worthwhile it will be a process. The first step is of course to recognize that you are operating from a place of fear and that your negative emotions are attached to fear. For example, if you fear that your love interest will abandon you, rather than create the self fulfilling prophecy by creating behaviors that will sabotage that relationship, identify what is making you feel threatened. Was it a past relationship? Has everyone you have ever been involved with broken up with you, so this is what you expect from anyone you go out with.
The first step to overcoming the abandonment fear is to recognize that not everyone you date is your ex. It is a baby step but it is a step. In relationships, like everything else, some element of risk is involved. You have to take the right risks though. You may feel as though all the chances you have taken had bad results and may feel you no longer want to take any chances. But look at the chances you did take? Was it reasonable for you to expect a great outcome? If a man is a known womanizer don’t take a risk on him, but take the risk from a man with a better reputation. Minimizing risk can result in better outcomes when you do take chances. Knowing you are making better choices can help minimize your fears.
What have you learned form past relationships? Past relationships can quite often ruin the ones we are currently in. Being hung up on an ex, for instance is a way that your past keeps you from moving towards the future and focusing on the present. Starting a relationship before you are really over your ex, or as a way to get over your ex, only leads to re-bound relationships.
If you were cheated on in past relationships, you may have trust issues. If the person your are currently involved with has been cheated on in his past, he may have problems trusting. Either way, you both have to start fresh. You have to at least allow the new person in your life to earn your trust. If you start out not trusting them and never allow trust the chance to grow, the relationship is doomed.
There is nothing wrong with learning from your past relationships. Learning from past relationships can help your future relationships become better ones. Holding onto your emotional baggage from past relationships sabotages your new ones.
You may be insecure, have a problem with jealousy or control. Has this caused problems in your past relationships? If they have, doesn’t it stand to reason they will be the same issues in your next relationship too? It is time you look at why your past relationships failed, and do what you can to make the changes necessary to give the new ones a real chance at making it.
Since your past relationships ended, shouldn’t their hold on you end as well. Should you or the one you love suffer or be punished presently for something you or they are not responsible for? How does that help a relationship? It does not. It is up to you and the one you love to keep the past in the past. Put closure on your past relationships, learn from them, and move on.
Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are expert twin flame psychics who can work with you to help you rid yourself of emotional baggage from your past. They are able to see deeply into your romantic situation and bring to the surface what must be addressed in your life so that future relationships can grow flourish. A twin flame psychic reading can show what troubles from your past you or the one you love is bringing into your current relationship so you can address these troubles and deal with them.
Have you found yourself in love with your twin flame but they are emotionally unavailable? It is heartbreaking when the one you love cannot or does not feel the same way about you or can not give you what you need. But how can you tell if your twin flame is emotionally unavailable?
For starters, if they are involved with someone else, they are not emotionally available to you. When you share someone, you share their emotions as well. They may really feel a connection to you, but cannot or will not act on it because of that fact they are already in a relationship or married. And yes, when we meet our twin flame they could actually be married or in a relationship with someone else. Until they are willing to act on that connection and consider ending the current relationship, they are emotionally unavailable to you. A twin flame psychic reading will reveal if they have feelings for that other romantic partner, or if feelings are really with you. A twin flame psychic reading will provide details you need so you know whether or not he will ever act on your connection, and if they will ever end this existing relationship and have one with you.
If you are in a friends with benefits situation, or a booty call, but he will never treat you or call you his girlfriend (he may even already have one) then he is emotionally unavailable to you. You may think because you have a great connection and the sex is great, that there is more to it. That is not always the case. Sometimes a man can be connected to you sexually, but still be emotionally unavailable. A twin flame psychic reading will reveal if there is anything he feels for you and if this will ever be anything more than a sexual relationship.
You may be in a relationship with someone who is cold, distant, and does not treat you well at all. They may have been different when you first met, but they are emotionally unavailable now. Do you hang in there and try and make change happen, or should you let go? A twin flame psychic reading with Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise will reveal the truth regarding your relationship, and help you determine if it is time to end it. You may have think you tried everything and cannot get this relationship back on track no matter what you do to get your emotionally unavailable man to open up emotionally, and a twin flame psychic reading with twin flame psychics can help you so much with this situation.
You may have gone through a break up and still feel for your ex deeply and want to get back together. He may have a new girlfriend or wife, and have cut you off completely. He may have even told you he no longer cares for you or loves you anymore. Is it time to move on and get closure, or will you be getting back together? He may only be pretending to be emotionally unavailable to you right now. A twin flame psychic reading will reveal if he really still has feelings for you, or if it is time for you to close this chapter for good.
Nothing is more frustrating than loving someone who is emotionally unavailable. If things cannot change, you are wasting your time, and need to know right now, once and for all. A twin flame psychic reading can guide you though the changes that can be made, or help you to let go of a dead end relationship. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are honest, accurate twin flame psychics who specialize in twin flame relationships. Allow them to see if your emotionally unavailable twin flame will work through this crises with you and get your relationship back on track.
We have many people contact us to help them fix a dysfunctional relationship. Twin flame relationships, soul mate relationships, karmic relationships…all of them. Not all relationships are created equal and there are times when what works for one relationship may not necessarily work for another. There are times when you will need to take action to fix a dysfunctional relationship. But more importantly, more often than not, doing nothing can be the solution needed to fix a dysfunctional relationship. Doing nothing, can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when it comes to emotions and matters of the heart. Very often, however, it is the only thing to do, especially where life lessons are involved. And where soul mate and twin flame relationships are concerned, you can be that life lessons will be involved. Of course there are times and occasions where taking action is a good thing, like when you are preparing for a hurricane or running from an oncoming train. Then again, there are actually times when it is best to stand down, be idle, and do nothing.
So many times clients ask us how they can fix a dysfunctional relationship, asking what specific steps they can take. They ask us things like “What can I do to make what I want happen sooner or faster?”, “What can I do to make the relationship better?”, and “What can I do to get my twin flame or soul mate to change?”. Many times there will be a clear course of action that can be implemented to to fix a relationship. When these steps appear in twin flame psychic readings or soul mate psychic readings we will discuss any action they could take to improve things as well as provide guidance to help them fix a relationship. But there are also times when the clear cut answer is to do nothing. When you are in an emotionally vulnerable position and want to make things happen, this can make you feel helpless, with no control over the situation. And that is just the point. There are many times where you can have zero control to fix a relationship because your romantic partner needs to be the one it create the change. But the one thing to realize in all of this is that doing nothing is way better than doing something that exacerbates the problem.
When it comes to relationships of all kinds, not just twin flame, soul mate or romantic ones, doing NOTHING and taking zero action, is what must be done to achieve the desired outcome. It is very hard for some folks to digest that, but sometimes it really is just that simple. It is not always about us, even though it AFFECTS us, and it is up to the other person to do it all. We can often feel the problem or issue at hand belongs to both parties, when in fact it really is a problem with our romantic partner. If we erroneously believe that taking any kind of action is better than sitting around and doing nothing, we may be in for a big awakening. The consequences of taking action, when it is not called for, can be long lasting, even permanent. And many times, the results of those actions will not be the results you truly desire.
When you do something to try and fix a dysfunctional relationship, instead of nothing, you can actually be making things worse. Many times we have seen that someone needs to reach out to the loved one to fix a relationship and put it back together. On the other hand, there are just as many times when doing anything will be the worst thing you can do.
One of the main reasons for this is that the dynamics of the relationship must change, and in order for that to happen, you need to allow the time it takes to create that change. Change takes time. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t permanently change overnight. You must allow the situation or the other person the time they need in order to change, and in order for that change to stick. And how long is that? When will he change? Well everyone changes and transforms at different speeds. Everyone’s evolution is different, just like some people lose weight faster than others, they change at different rates as well. Change is a process between and individual and their higher self, it is a very personal thing between them and the Divine. In order for the changes to have to fix a relationship, they will take time.
One of the best examples of this is when a relationship has ended. If you did not want the relationship to end you may feel the need to do something to fix it and try and win your ex back. When you have not heard from your ex, you may worry that he may have forgotten all about you, may be moving on, may find someone else or may have lost his feelings for you. You feel you must reach out before it is too late. The silence is deafening and the waiting is driving you crazy. You may be thinking about him all the time, night and day, thoughts of them just don’t leave your mind. You rationalize that you must reach out to them because they are on your mind so much. You had no patience to begin with and can’t take the lack of action on their part. Someone must do something, and you feel at this point that person must be you. Understandable, but…
Look at the reason or reasons why you broke up in the first place. Did he break up with you or did you break up with him? Were there major problems or issues in the relationship on his end or of his doing that caused this relationship to end? Did you throw out an ultimatum that they did not follow through with? Did they disappear and simply stop talking to you for no good reason? Did they leave you for someone else? Were you miserable in that relationship but are now glamorizing it by focusing on the good times and second guessing yourself thinking you may have done the wrong thing? Are you obsessing about your need to perhaps persuade them to take you back?
If the answer to any of those questions is yes, there is a good chance that a psychic reading would reveal it is not in your best interest to take action if you want to be re-united. Finding an excuse to make contact with your ex is not going to fix a relationship. We understand you are impatient and want him back as soon as possible so you can reconcile, but if nothing has changed, what is the point of making contact? More than likely it will lead to another breakup because he has learned nothing. You would only drag this out and find yourself in this same situation at another time down the road.
We live in a very fast past world where things are happening at lightning speed. One of the most difficult things to do is to be still, be silent, and do nothing. But doing nothing will, in some cases, bring better results than taking action. You have lessons to learn, and so does your romantic partner and to fix a relationship, you both need to learn them. If you keep enabling the situation to remain the same by doing all the work, you will never have a relationship that is a true partnership. If your insecurity in your relationship keeps you doing everything to please someone that takes you for granted, they will lose respect for you and you will lose respect for yourself. Let them learn their lessons all by themselves. Don’t be so concerned with when they learn it, be more concerned that they learn it. You want to do something? Well, work on yourself, do for yourself, and ask yourself what lesson you should be learning from all of this. After all, lessons will be repeated until you learn them.
Many people believe they must endure a dysfunctional relationship because someone is their soul mate or twin flame. Of course there will be obstacles that must be overcome, as with any twin flame relationship. Some of them could be quite challenging. But if you find that you constantly compromise your own personal happiness by staying in a soul mate or twin flame relationship that leaves you feeling m miserable, unloved and unappreciated, it might be time to recognize the relationship has become dysfunctional.
Take a good, honest look at your soul mate or twin flame relationship. Are you happy in this relationship? Were you happy in the beginning but can’t seem to find that happiness anymore? Does you soul mate or twin flame treat you unfairly, unkindly or unjustly? Do you tolerate behaviors from your twin flame that you swore you never would? Well unfortunately your relationship has become dysfunctional.
Fighting to keep your twin flame relationship going is like beating your head against the wall. And you will always lose. As a matter of fact you might as well just drop a bowling ball on your head and deal with the pain all at once. Relationships take commitment, compromise and communication and if you are the only one contributing the three “Cs” the relationship is doomed because there is one person contributing to the relationship.
The dysfunctional twin flame relationship will not fix itself. No amount of time, love, having kids or buying a new home will fix a dysfunctional relationship. It will not get back to where it was in the beginning no matter how much you pray or how many candles you light. Sure, we believe in divine intervention but most of the time, there has to be an intervention, and you will more than likely have to do it.
Not all dysfunctional twin flame relationships need to stay broken. The good news is that some of them can be fixed. The first step is to recognize there is a problem. How can you tell? If your relationship has gotten way out of control, with no boundaries, no mutual respect for each other or for the relationship itself, it is a dysfunctional relationship. If he refuses to listen to you, does not contribute to your relationship and grunts at you instead of talking with you, it is a dysfunctional relationship. If your relationship is making you miserable, it is time to accept that it is dysfunctional.
On the other hand, not all dysfunctional relationships can be saved, no matter how much you love or desire someone. It will take work. And not just yours. Work that you are both committed to work on together. He has to be willing to step up to the plate as well and contribute to fixing things. If you catch the dysfunctional early enough to bring it back into balance. If too much damage has been done in during ‘hoping things will change’ time, chances are you will not be able to bring this back from the brink of failure.
So what are some of the changes you can make to repair you dysfunctional twin flame relationship?
- Stop fighting ~ You know how to push each other’s buttons. Replace fighting with peaceful discussion or conversation. If you are calm but he will wants to fight, remove yourself from the situation until he calms down and is able to speak like a normal person. Get counseling if he is willing, as this will help create better communication skills.
- Stop letting resentments build ~ Forgive the past so you can create a better future together.
- Stop waiting for change to happen ~ Take control and begin to create change in the your relationship. Take control of what YOU can. Your relationships is really not dependent upon what you twin flame says, does, or thinks.
- Take the high road ~ Stop stooping to behaviors that lower your dignity just to save the relationship. If you do or say anything that is beneath you, it compromises your integrity and makes you feel used.
- Let go, if you know it will never change ~ Find the right relationship that you want and deserve. If a relationship is so dysfunctional, never been healthy or brought you joy, it might be time to pack it in. Not all relationships are salvageable. Don’t wait for it to get worse.
You can’t stay in a relationship that is joyless just to wait and see if it will magically change down the road. The road itself is what is predicting your path. If the road is getting rockier you need to do something to get your on your right path. Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are Twin flame ~ Soul mate experts and able to quickly delve into the challenges you might be facing in your dysfunctional relationship. They will give you insight, guidance and honest answers to get your relationship on course or give you the courage you need to walk away from it. The Universe and the Divine do not intend for us to be miserable, fearful and unloved in our romantic relationships. Sarah and Sophia will guide you back to that place.
We all have free will. The Universe gave it to us and we all have it to make the choices for ourselves in our lives. Nothing is set in stone in our lives, if it were, there would be no point in being here to experience it. Free will give us the ability to experience different outcomes based on the decisions we make or actions we take in our lives. But free will also forces us to take accountability and responsibility for our lives, especially when it comes to our twin flame relationships.
Many people have a hard time understanding what free will actually is. In giving a highly simple example, lets say you have a big test coming up and you decide that you are going to study every night for two weeks, including weekends, to pass that test. You know the material and you know that you should do well on the test if you apply yourself. You may even get a psychic reading to show how you will on the test and the reading reveals that you will do very well as long as you put in some study time to work through some of the more complicated issues. On Monday though, a friend calls and asks you out for dinner, so you delay studying. On Tuesday you decide to watch television. And so it goes for the remainder of the two week preparation period. So what happens on test day? You fail. Why? Because you used your free will and decided to do other things instead of studying.
When it comes to free will and your twin flame relationship, you have to be willing to be accountable and responsible for how things unfold between you. Many people call us and ask how free will comes into play with their twin flame and soulmate relationships. Some questions can not be answered the way a client or caller truly desires because the twin flame or soulmate does have free will. So for instance, lets say you want to know if your newly found twin flame relationship will work out, if it will move forward into marriage. There are so many variables here and what the two of you do with this romantic opportunity is up to both of you and the free will that both of you have. If you decided after three or four dates to do something stupid like get drunk at his company picnic, vomit on his boss’s shoes (or on his boss) and dance (or fall off) a picnic table, your free will has pretty much blown the opportunity of a permanent relationship developing.
Additionally there are “free will provisions” in your twin flame psychic reading. The answer can depend on what you do or don’t do in the future, because there are two different outcomes based on what you do or don’t do or what he does or doesn’t do. For instance, if you call for a twin flame psychic reading to ask if you and your twin flame will get back together and the guidance is for you to initiate the reconciliation, but you choose not to because of your pride, your free will will cause the opposite outcome. And unfortunately you then have to take the responsibility for this twin flame relationship not coming back together.
What we do in the future and our future choices affect our future outcomes. As we have mentioned earlier, not everything is set in stone. This is where free will comes in. If you are fighting with your twin flame relationship partner and we reveal to you that he is being very argumentative at the moment and needs a cooling off period before trying to reason with him. We see the relationship working out. But if you decide you need to talk to him right now because you just can not wait one moment longer and the fight escalates into something much bigger and much worse you very well might have changed the outcome all together.
If you need guidance in your twin flame relationship and understanding the deep spiritual undertones of what might be happening in that relationship, Sarah and Sophia are here for you. They are twin flame experts and can quickly delve into the inner workings of your relationship problems providing guidance and support you need to get to the next stage. All twin flame psychic readings are private and confidential.
Responsibility, accountability and free will are necessary aspects of our relationships and our lives in general. There are of course some things in life that we cannot control, prepare for or even see coming. Sometimes good things happen to bad people and bad things certainly happen to good people. Some things are out of our control, they are the luck of the draw or being in the wrong place at the wrong time. But not everything is out of our control and we cannot keep blaming others, the Universe, God or the Divine for the situations we find ourselves in or the problems we face. Many times in our lives we are faced with what we feel is a responsibility to others but we also must realize we have responsibility to ourselves.
When it comes to relationships, especially twinflame and soulmate relationships, we have to be accountable and responsible. We have to use our free will wisely. Lets say for example you meet a guy who led you to believe he is single. Later on down the line, however, you discover he lied. Should you beat yourself up over this? No. You are not he one at fault here, he is the one who lied to you. He made you believe he was single. But now you have proof he is a cheater and a liar. If you decide to continue this relationship, with someone who has proven to be a liar and cheater, should you really feel victimized when you uncover more of his lies and learn he is cheating on you as well? You took the risk. It was a long shot. If you want better odds with better outcomes choose less risky relationships. You have free will and you made the choice to stay with him even though he proved to you time and again that he was a liar and a cheater.
Many of our clients feel powerless in their romantic relationships and act as though they have no accountability, responsibility or free will. They feel they are victims because their relationships are out of their control. They feel their romantic partner is holding all the cards and calling all the shots in the relationship. And many times they are. But those who feel victimized are giving power to their partner and allowing them to call the shots. You can’t make someone treat you the way you deserve but you certainly can choose not to be around someone who treats you this way.
You can’t really choose who we fall in love with but you can choose to end a relationship with someone because you are not happy. If you choose to stay with someone, in any capacity, who mistreats you or does not express feelings for you, you should accept the responsibility for staying. You need to be accountable for exercising your free will to stay with them, even though they are making you miserable. The moment you realize someone is not right for you, you can have a pity party for a short time, but what you do is up to you. Not them. YOU. So don’t get mad at them for cheating again, breaking up with you again or breaking promises to you again. Don’t blame them. They are who they are and you should know that by now. If you stay, YOU are making that choice to give them the opportunity to hurt you again.
If you are unhappy, rather than assigning blame why not either accept the outcomes of the choices you made or make new choices that have different outcomes? It may suck that you were alone for your birthday but if you choose to be involved with someone who is married or does not want to spend your birthday with you, accept the responsibility for creating your own unhappiness and either accept that as your lot in life or go and find someone else who is available.
When someone chooses to stay in the role of victim they are giving away their own personal power. This is a very dis-empowering place to be. They may believe the Universe constantly throws them a pile of crap day after day after day that they must deal with which is the root of their unhappiness. They may even be mad a God. They don’t take responsibility for the actions and decisions that have created their reality. The Divine does not want us to be miserable. The Universe does give us challenges and obstacles in our lives that we must deal with and overcome, of course, but as they say, we are never really given more than we can handle. Sometimes we may bot dig in deep to find the courage and strength to deal with some of the challenges, but when we take responsibility for our decisions and actions, we grow and evolve as humans. And this, in a nutshell, is why we are all here.