Do you fear losing your soul mate? Many people fear they will never find a soul mate in their lifetime but when they actually meet a soul mate candidate, that fear is replaced with the loss of the soul mate relationship. It could be fairly easy to understand why someone could fear the loss of their soul mate because soul mate relationships are rare and the strong connection in and of itself can support that fear. A soul mate relationship is like no other. Most of the people we have spoken to say nothing compares to the emotional bond the develops between soul mates. Because soul mate relationship often encounter drama and conflict, the fear of losing a soul mate causes people to make bad choices which could actually increase the chances of the relationship falling apart.
When you allow someone to behave in a manner you know is wrong, you are not helping the situation. but enabling more bad behavior from them. What you allow, will continue. So whatever behaviors you allow your soul mate to bring into your relationship, expect them to continue. Don’t expect them to change whilst you continue to allow it. More than likely you are allowing their behavior is because of your deep rooted fear that the soul mate will bail on you. You may believe you have to give in, be the peacemaker or tolerate this kind of treatment due to the nature of the soul mate connection. You may fear your soul mate will leave and end your relationship if you challenge their behavior in any way. On the other hand, you would be wrong. By supporting their bad behavior, you are actually putting your soul mate relationship on a collision course with disaster. If you fear losing your soul mate, why would you continue to support its dysfunction?
How could you allow the fear of losing your soul mate actually make your relationship worse? When you let fear dictate a relationship you set in motion the inevitable ending of that relationship. A relationship cannot be healthy if it is fear-based. A healthy relationship is love-based. Love and fear can not co-exist in a healthy relationship. Sure, we can all reasonably fear that if we cheat on our romantic partners we would lose them. But because your relationship is built on love, you wouldn’t cheat on them the first place. Love is dictating your actions and behaviors, not fear.
In soul mate relationships, the love can be very intense and overpowering. That is hard enough for some folks to handle. If that love creates a fearful environment, the level of fear becomes overpowering too. As the fear grows, the less love exists in the relationship. If you fear someone will leave you when they are doing wrong, you can’t really believe they love you, can you? If you think you have to tolerate bad behavior, out of your fear-based feeling they will leave, you can’t believe they really love you very much. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be so afraid. If you trusted in the love you share with your soul mate, you wouldn’t be afraid to stand up for yourself.
You may also fear losing your soul mate because you believe they don’t love you enough. Now how is that a soul mate relationship that makes you happy? This soul mate relationship has made you insecure. Again, if fear takes over, relationships (even soul mate ones) break down. It is a vicious cycle where the more you tolerate mistreatment, the more you dont believe they love you. You also do not love yourself. You feel ashamed at your willingness to tolerate such bad behavior. You may even use your soul mate connection as an excuse. You may think this is part of being in a soul mate relationship. It isn’t. Yes, soul mate relationships are often rocky ones, but it is up to you and your soul mate to not give into your fears. If you do, your worst fears will most likely come true.