Is your soul mate a narcissist? The word narcissist is thrown around a bit too easily by people that are in relationships with selfish or childish partners. How can you tell if your soul mate is a narcissist? Here is our list of signs that your partner may be a narcissist. Keep in mind that these are just signs, not a diagnosis. If your soul mate has only one sign or two, that may not mean anything, but if most of the signs ring true, it may indicate they truly are a narcissist.
Signs Your Soul Mate is a Narcissist
1). The first sign your soul mate is a narcissist is that they are incredibly demanding, and their expectations of you are too much for anyone on earth to achieve. What can you demand and expect from them? Pretty much nothing. They will give you and do for you only what they feel like doing, which won’t be much.
2). Another sign your soul mate may be a narcissist is that they are not considerate of your feelings, your goals, your family, pretty much your life. They want you to be considerate of theirs, but they won’t be of yours. They dismiss your feelings and may tell you that you are “wrong” for feeling the way you feel. They may say that since they didn’t mean to make you feel like that, that you have no right to feel that way. They won’t ask you about your day, what is going on at your job, or even what happened with the kids.
3). Narcissists will not allow your input in decisions that affect the both of you. They know what is best, so they need not consult you. Since they are the only smart person in the relationship capable of making the right decisions, they will make their choice/decision and then tell you about it later (or you will find out about it later) when it is already done.
4). Relationships are supposed to be 50/50. A soul mate relationship with a narcissist however is 0/100. They bring nothing to the table, and expect you to do everything. You should be so glad to be in a relationship with such a gem, they shouldn’t have to do anything to keep the relationship going. The hard work will all be on you. If you stay together it will be because you change for them, they won’t change for you.
5). Another sign of narcissistic soul mate behavior is that they go way overboard patting themselves on the back. For instance, they could be working with a team on a project at work. If the project is a success, any minor contribution they made on the project will be what made it a success. They will downplay the role the rest of the team played, and up their role to that of “star”. They want compliments and accolades from you and everyone else, but rarely, if ever, will they give anyone else a real compliment.
6). Many people have a hard time with criticism, and it seems narcissists may have the hardest time of all. Sure, they can criticize you all the time but good luck giving them even constructive criticism. Their reaction will quite often be explosive. They only want praise, and will only accept praise. Criticism they will deny, defend, or deflect one someone else.
A soul mate relationship with a narcissist is a really tough relationship to go through. They can make your self esteem and dignity plummet by making you feel inadequate. Do not isolate yourself. Talk to people you can trust so you have support while going through a relationship like this and so you don’t feel alone.