We have many people contact us to help them fix a dysfunctional relationship. Twin flame relationships, soul mate relationships, karmic relationships…all of them. Not all relationships are created equal and there are times when what works for one relationship may not necessarily work for another. There are times when you will need to take action to fix a dysfunctional relationship. But more importantly, more often than not, doing nothing can be the solution needed to fix a dysfunctional relationship. Doing nothing, can be one of the hardest things to do, especially when it comes to emotions and matters of the heart. Very often, however, it is the only thing to do, especially where life lessons are involved. And where soul mate and twin flame relationships are concerned, you can be that life lessons will be involved. Of course there are times and occasions where taking action is a good thing, like when you are preparing for a hurricane or running from an oncoming train. Then again, there are actually times when it is best to stand down, be idle, and do nothing.
So many times clients ask us how they can fix a dysfunctional relationship, asking what specific steps they can take. They ask us things like “What can I do to make what I want happen sooner or faster?”, “What can I do to make the relationship better?”, and “What can I do to get my twin flame or soul mate to change?”. Many times there will be a clear course of action that can be implemented to to fix a relationship. When these steps appear in twin flame psychic readings or soul mate psychic readings we will discuss any action they could take to improve things as well as provide guidance to help them fix a relationship. But there are also times when the clear cut answer is to do nothing. When you are in an emotionally vulnerable position and want to make things happen, this can make you feel helpless, with no control over the situation. And that is just the point. There are many times where you can have zero control to fix a relationship because your romantic partner needs to be the one it create the change. But the one thing to realize in all of this is that doing nothing is way better than doing something that exacerbates the problem.
When it comes to relationships of all kinds, not just twin flame, soul mate or romantic ones, doing NOTHING and taking zero action, is what must be done to achieve the desired outcome. It is very hard for some folks to digest that, but sometimes it really is just that simple. It is not always about us, even though it AFFECTS us, and it is up to the other person to do it all. We can often feel the problem or issue at hand belongs to both parties, when in fact it really is a problem with our romantic partner. If we erroneously believe that taking any kind of action is better than sitting around and doing nothing, we may be in for a big awakening. The consequences of taking action, when it is not called for, can be long lasting, even permanent. And many times, the results of those actions will not be the results you truly desire.
When you do something to try and fix a dysfunctional relationship, instead of nothing, you can actually be making things worse. Many times we have seen that someone needs to reach out to the loved one to fix a relationship and put it back together. On the other hand, there are just as many times when doing anything will be the worst thing you can do.
One of the main reasons for this is that the dynamics of the relationship must change, and in order for that to happen, you need to allow the time it takes to create that change. Change takes time. Change doesn’t happen overnight, and it doesn’t permanently change overnight. You must allow the situation or the other person the time they need in order to change, and in order for that change to stick. And how long is that? When will he change? Well everyone changes and transforms at different speeds. Everyone’s evolution is different, just like some people lose weight faster than others, they change at different rates as well. Change is a process between and individual and their higher self, it is a very personal thing between them and the Divine. In order for the changes to have to fix a relationship, they will take time.
One of the best examples of this is when a relationship has ended. If you did not want the relationship to end you may feel the need to do something to fix it and try and win your ex back. When you have not heard from your ex, you may worry that he may have forgotten all about you, may be moving on, may find someone else or may have lost his feelings for you. You feel you must reach out before it is too late. The silence is deafening and the waiting is driving you crazy. You may be thinking about him all the time, night and day, thoughts of them just don’t leave your mind. You rationalize that you must reach out to them because they are on your mind so much. You had no patience to begin with and can’t take the lack of action on their part. Someone must do something, and you feel at this point that person must be you. Understandable, but…
Look at the reason or reasons why you broke up in the first place. Did he break up with you or did you break up with him? Were there major problems or issues in the relationship on his end or of his doing that caused this relationship to end? Did you throw out an ultimatum that they did not follow through with? Did they disappear and simply stop talking to you for no good reason? Did they leave you for someone else? Were you miserable in that relationship but are now glamorizing it by focusing on the good times and second guessing yourself thinking you may have done the wrong thing? Are you obsessing about your need to perhaps persuade them to take you back?
If the answer to any of those questions is yes, there is a good chance that a psychic reading would reveal it is not in your best interest to take action if you want to be re-united. Finding an excuse to make contact with your ex is not going to fix a relationship. We understand you are impatient and want him back as soon as possible so you can reconcile, but if nothing has changed, what is the point of making contact? More than likely it will lead to another breakup because he has learned nothing. You would only drag this out and find yourself in this same situation at another time down the road.
We live in a very fast past world where things are happening at lightning speed. One of the most difficult things to do is to be still, be silent, and do nothing. But doing nothing will, in some cases, bring better results than taking action. You have lessons to learn, and so does your romantic partner and to fix a relationship, you both need to learn them. If you keep enabling the situation to remain the same by doing all the work, you will never have a relationship that is a true partnership. If your insecurity in your relationship keeps you doing everything to please someone that takes you for granted, they will lose respect for you and you will lose respect for yourself. Let them learn their lessons all by themselves. Don’t be so concerned with when they learn it, be more concerned that they learn it. You want to do something? Well, work on yourself, do for yourself, and ask yourself what lesson you should be learning from all of this. After all, lessons will be repeated until you learn them.