Does your soulmate or twin flame always make you the bad guy?
Can your soulmate or twin flame twist things around to always make it come out that they’re the victim and you’re the bad guy? Do you tire of explaining yourself and you’re sick of the guilt trips? Have you had enough of apologizing when you really don’t feel you should have to? Does your relationship revolve around your partner’s feelings all the time? Are the fights about little things getting monotonous because your partner blows them out of proportion?
BEING THE BAD GUY IS TIRING
At some point everyone tires of being the bad guy all the time. If you’re a good person and you do something wrong, you of course will feel guilty about it and want to make amends. If you’re a good person, who likes to keep the peace, you may try to make amends even when it’s not your responsibility to do so.
But good people have a threshold too and it shouldn’t be crossed. The time will come when you will refuse to accept your soulmate or twin flame is always making you the bad guy.
So what should you do about it?
If your soulmate or twin flame makes everything about them, it’s time you let them know that everything you think and do is about them. Let them know that it’s time they consider your feelings, or you will be done considering theirs. If they want their feelings to count, they have to count yours.
When someone is always making you the bad guy, it’s an effort to manipulate you. When your soulmate or twin flame makes you the bad guy all the time, they conveniently draw attention away from themselves.
They pay no attention to what they do wrong, but concentrate on you, yet again. They conveniently forget about any major offense they commit but spend time concentrating on the trivial things you do. Better yet, let’s blame your trivial things as they reason they commit their major offense.
While you’re busy defending yourself from being the bad guy, they want you to take the responsibility for their actions or words as well. Don’t fall for it and don’t feel guilty.
If they provoke you, you have the right to your emotions. But you’re not responsible for theirs. There are adult ways of handling things. Taking responsibility is the first step.
If you’re tired of always being the bad guy, you have to change your way of reacting to it.
Stop feeling guilty. Stop defending yourself.
If you’re the kind of person that will admit when you’re wrong, then that’s your only job. No longer do you have to accept the bad guy label anymore. Forget about having to prove you’re a decent human being. You are human, just like they are.
You make mistakes, and you should own up to them. And so should they. It can’t always be just you. So if your partner is constantly putting all the blame on you, call them out on it. Tell them you will no longer be responsible for every feeling, insecurity, bad reaction and bad behavior of theirs. Give that responsibility back to them where it belongs.
Also check out our article Is Your Soulmate or Twin Flame a Narcissist.
Originally posted on 09/28/2017 @ 2:00 pm