It’s not always a soulmate or twin flame connection when you feel chemistry with someone. Quite often, due to unhealed wounds from the past, we can attract people who are wrong for us.
Until we heal those wounds, we can find ourselves meeting the same type of people and having the same type of problems.
A soulmate or twin flame connection isn’t the only reason you find yourself drawn to someone. It could be, that unlike a soulmate or twin flame, this person is entirely wrong for you. So why are we drawn to those who are wrong for us?
Did you recently end a relationship?
It really depends on the energy we put out to the universe. For instance, did you recently get out of relationship? Did you take the time to truly move on and release all the negativity from that relationship? Did you learn anything from the role you played in that relationship so you can create changes in your own behaviors going forward?
If not, you may attract someone just like your ex. So the same relationship, with the same problems, will repeat itself. We should learn from all of our relationships, not just ones with a soulmate or twin flame connection. That’s a part of life. If you don’t learn the lesson, chances are you will repeat the same mistakes.
What did you learn?
This is why it’s very important to take the time necessary to learn and heal from past relationships. So many people wonder why they keep getting into the wrong relationships and why the same problems keep showing up in their lives. You aren’t a bad person because bad people pull you to them. Like is attracting like.
A manipulator and someone who is easily manipulated will find one other due to the energy they’re each putting out. Manifesting doesn’t just work one way. Yes you can manifest what’s good for you and what will make you happy. But you can just as easily manifest negative things and people into your life as well.
You need to reset you emotional wellbeing after ending a relationship, and give yourself time to detox from it. Going forward you need to have a new outlook, a new set of relationship skills and boundaries that you’re going to stick to.
It’s a good rule of thumb that before entering a new relationship you let go of the baggage from your past relationships. Being by yourself for a while, and being okay with being alone, helps you make better choices moving forward. Let go of the fact that your last relationship was not fixable and that it’s for the best. In doing so you can prevent yourself from being drawn to another broken person.
Don’t look for someone else to fix you, that is not their job. Fix yourself, and the right person will enter your life.
Not everyone we feel drawn to is a soulmate or twin flame.
If you’re feeling a pull towards someone, don’t just jump to the conclusion that it may be a spiritual connection. When a spirit is broken, it’s really impossible to make the right connection. So if you see similarities between the new person and a past relationship, be on the lookout for red flags.
You do not want to keep repeating the same lessons over and over again. No one needs to go through that pain more than once. Wouldn’t it be great if we were only drawn towards people that have our best interests at heart? Unfortunately, that is not always the case. It is easy to be intrigued by this pull you are feeling towards someone. Just remember to proceed with caution, and keep your eyes open.
Also check our article: Do You Need a Twin Flame or is a Soul Mate Enough?
Originally posted on 2018-03-23 @ 1:00 pm