One would think if soul mates have faith they would be without fear. Since their connection is so strong and the feelings are real, what fears could soul mates possibly face? Why is it that soul mates seem to have more fears and doubts than normal couples? In all dating and relationships there is an element of risk and fear of getting your heart broken. Are soul mate fears really any different than what all couples must face, conquer and deal with? In some ways, there is a big difference in the fears soul mates have because of the connection they share.
When you first meet someone, you may be on the fence about whether or not you really like them. You are in no danger emotionally from them because you are not emotionally invested in that person yet. You can take the time to get to know them before you open up your heart to them. You minimize the risk by choosing only the right people to give a chance at a relationship with you. If you don’t really like them or you feel no chemistry you simply never go out with them again. Case closed. If you meet someone that is very different from you and not your type, you remain shut off from them. They don’t stand a chance with you. In many ways you have some control over the situation because you can make choices with your free will.
When it comes to soul mates it is another story entirely. You first meet a soul mate and you immediately feel connected to them and it takes no time at all. The feelings are present even though you barely know this person. It didn’t take you any time to warm up to them, you were boiling hot the second your eyes met. You couldn’t minimize the risk. You didn’t get to decide to give them a chance per say. The connection did it all for you. Many soul mates have told us they would never in a million years have chosen their soul mate as their soul mate when they first met. They either were not at their best, not single or they would have ran from the red flags right away. But because they had a soul mate connection, they felt powerless and their free will, to a degree, went out the window. Because soul mates often feel they would have chosen a partner with less risk, drama, issues or obstacles, they have more fears.
Soul mate relationships can be so over-powering. The problems they face seem as if they are straight out of a soap opera. When they see the challenges before them, they often think they are insurmountable. When they are confronted with the lessons to be learned, they feel overwhelmed. Not all relationships require change and learning lessons. Soul mate relationships do. Many normal relationships are actually easier than soul mate relationships. That is another reason soul mates have so many fears.
The common misconception of soul mates is that they are easy relationships, when they rarely are. So when soul mates meet and the obstacles show up, they question if they actually are soul mates. They fear they have been mistaken, and that soul mate relationships shouldn’t be this difficult and shouldn’t take this much work. Once that fear creeps in, others come along for the ride. When their soul mate acts out, they begin fear their connection is one sided. They begin to fear their soul mate may not feel the same way about them. They fear that their soul mate will never get their act together and the relationship will never work out. Once those fears surface bad decisions are often made. What was once a relationship built on the faith and intense connection is now guided by their lack of faith in the connection. Instead of bringing out the best in one another from a place of love, they are bringing out the worst in one another from a place of fear.
Fear and love can not co exist in a relationship. One always wins out and pushed the other out completely. is your soul mate relationship full of fear and anxiety? if it is, the time to deal with it is now. Let us help you fill your soul mate relationship with love, and expel the fears, before more damage is done.